Archive for November, 2006

Fathers Matter, A guide to seperation and divorce.

November 3, 2006

The very first thing that i noticed about this book was the sticker on the front cover, which reads “A timely, invaluable guide…Read it and learn” Bob Geldof.
After reading the book i have to say that those eight words from Sir Bob, should be testimony enough for anyone. The full quote is:

  “This book is a timely, invaluable guide around the many hurdles and obstructions the Courts will put in a man’s way to stop him being a dad to his kids. Read it and learn.”


My own case has been in the courts in one way or another for over 4 and a half years now, and I sincerely wish that this book had been written back then.
 

 Upon opening the book the first thing that you see is a well presented contents page. In all there are 9 pages of contents, which at first might seem a little over the top for a book of approximately 125 pages. The reason for so many pages is simple, the book is in three parts, each chapter is broken down into smaller, easier to digest subsections, each of these is listed under it’s relevant chapter. This makes it very intuitive to use.  

To view the contents click here

The first part of the book talks about the family. About how to cope as a father, how to break the news to children, to deal with the break up, amicably wherever possible, and much more. The thing that struck me whilst I was reading the first part of the book was that the emphasis was always on the child or children and what is best for them.  

In the second part of the book the issue of the law itself is discussed, and good information is given on all aspects, ranging from explaining the children act, its underlying principles, through what type of orders can be made and what they mean, what to look for when choosing a solicitor and my personal favorite, a chapter on Terms of Business and costs, when employing a solicitor, which includes information about what you may see on your bill and the procedure to be followed if you disagree with it!  

The third and final part of the book is: What does the future hold for fathers? In this part of the book the recent changes to law, human rights and the pressure for the change of the family law system. There is also an appendix, which is made up of useful contacts and is definitely not to be over looked. 

All in all this is a very easy to read and informative book. The author comes across as being sympathetic to the plight of fathers when faced with the ordeal of being separated from his children, but never shows any sign of presuming to take the side of either father or mother, but always makes the point that no matter what, it is the children who’s welfare and continuing relationship with a loving father that is paramount.

 I can’t recommend this book highly enough, and not only for fathers. It is a book that should be read by anyone who is going through the trauma of a broken relationship which involves children, whether that be a father, mother, grandparents, extended family or anyone with an interest in this subject, no matter what the reason. 

From a more personal point of view, I would say to fathers, if you only have only one weapon in your armory to help with your fight for the rights of your children and yourself, make sure it is this one! 

If you would like more information on Celia Conrad the author of the book, click here. If you would like to see a comprehensive list of the contents of the book click here. To buy the book click here.  

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